Getting Through What You Can't Get Over by Anita Agers-Brooks 4****
Some of us have had something traumatic happen in our lives and we just can't seem to let go of it, no matter how many years ago it may have been. We relive it over and over again in our minds and may have feelings from thinking that you deserved whatever happened because you 'asked for it' or a consuming rage that the trauma happened at all. In some cases people suffer from PTSD or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and the memories affect their everyday lives. They may suffer from depression and, on some days not even be able to drag themselves out of bed. They may have anger issues that cause them to strike out at everyone who shares their life or tries to help them.
Mrs. Agers-Brooks gives Biblically sound advice for dealing with a situation from your past that is causing you pain in your present. The description on the back cover begins with a Bible scripture;
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.James 1:2-4 (NIV)
Here is the description of the book;
We will do almost anything to avoid facing our worst fears. But when tragedy strikes, and you can no longer hide, what do you do?
Many experience abuse, financial disaster, serious illness death of loved ones, and other common traumas making them believe they will never move past the pain. But through research and true story compilations, author Anita Agers-Brooks offers emotional , practical, and spiritual insights from experts and people who have survived intense trauma--and have made it through seemingly impossible situations.
Getting Through What You Can't Get Over offers relatable stories from people who have "been there" and lived to see a much brighter day, as well as a section of "Insider Tips" that provides insights on emotional healing, practical actions to take, and scriptures for spiritual comfort and encouragement to help you work through any struggle.
The true stories were simply heartbreaking and kept thinking how terrible it was for those people to have had to go through those things. But Mrs. Agers-Brooks wrote them with compassion and I could almost hear the empathy in her voice. The way she writes makes it immediately obvious that she is a woman with a huge heart and a mission to help others find their way out of the pain of traumas caused by people and situations out of their control.
Because the advice she has given in this book is biblically sound, I won't hesitate to put them to use in overcoming my own past trauma. I believe this book would be a wonderful addition to any library, whether or not the owner of said library has been through any type of trauma. I say that because, while the message this book offers is directed to those who HAVE experienced a negative and life altering event of some kind, I think that one could read these pages and learn from them how to help a friend get through a tough place in their lives.
Overall, this book was well written, very compassionate, and sensible. Mrs. Agers-Brooks made sure to clearly explain the steps one should take to get past the hurt of their past. My favorite chapter in the book was Chapter 12 "Valley Freedom". In it the author wrote;
"I now carry my own level of experiential empathy, a deep compassion that comes from having walked through darkness. When others hurt, I may not understand exactly what they are going through, but mt gut aches for them. I care deeply.When I say I'll pray, the words aren't spoken mindlessly--I mean them. I want to reach back to the place I've come from and comfort the wounded grasping for God's healing light."These words were a comfort to me and are what gave me the encouragement I needed to go back and deal with my own past hurts. I really hope that if you are looking for a way to get through a traumatizing event from your past, that you will give this book a read. Allow the words of this author and many troubled individuals and the truth of God's Word to smooth out those rough places and soothe the sore spots in your heart and soul. There is a link below for Getting Through What You Can't Get Over over on amazon.com.
Do you have any stories to share or pointers to give those who may be hurting? Feel free to leave a comment below.
**I received a complimentary copy of this book from Barbour Publishing in exchange for an honest review. The opinions expressed in this review are my honest thoughts.